We experience so many in our lifetime. Often we try to avoid them, but it is inevitable. In order to grow, you have to change. In order to find happiness where it is not, you have to change.
I’m not going to say it is easy. I’m not even going to try to sugar coat this into “you just do it”. I’m okay with little changes here and there, but the big ones are really, really hard for me. It’s seriously a challenge for this girl.
I’ve been in so many circumstances where I was forced into change. I suppose that is easier in some ways, when someone makes the decision for you and you have no choice but to adapt. It then becomes a matter of survival.
Changing when you are making the decision to do so is a different ball game altogether. When you are in a routine of living on a difficult path, picking yourself up and adjusting your life so that it gets better is often beyond what we can fathom. It isn’t always about effort. Often it is about fear. Fear of the unknown.
And let’s face it. That fear of the unknown is VERY REAL.
The funny thing about fear is this: Fear is an emotion. It’s just as real as happiness, love, sadness, regret. You choose your own happiness. We all know that. You can’t rely on someone else to make you happy. YOU CHOOSE YOUR JOY.
Fear works the same way. You choose your fear. You have control over it and you can either choose to let it swallow you whole, or you can choose to stop it where it grows.
I’m not making light of this in any way. Trust me when I say that I KNOW how hard it is to grab that fear and turn it into something else. It’s HARD. It’s incredibly hard. But the outcome is always worth conquering that fear.
I’ve had to make changes in my life that were completely altering. I’ve had to figure out how to make myself BETTER. As difficult as that was to walk through, I learned to fly. I learned that it really does always end up okay. If it isn’t okay, then it isn’t the end. And truthfully, life is a series of choices and changes to accommodate those choices.
You choose to let fear stand in your way, and / or you choose to face it head on and overcome it. It can be little choices and changes at first. They always lead to bigger and better ones. Find your heart and what you want to be and do not let fear stand in your way of making the necessary changes to get you there.
How though? How do you find it inside of yourself to actually bring it to fruition? FAITH. Faith is believing in something bigger, something you can’t see, something you don’t know will happen, but believing that it WILL. It doesn’t have to be religious, but if you are, it is knowing that God will never leave you. He will never let you fall so hard that you cannot be picked back up again. So long as there is breath in your body, you can change your life course. You just have to believe that you can.
Once you have that fear under control, the changes you are trying to make will seem to become more realistic to you. You will see how these changes can and will affect your life. By taking notice of these positives, you will see that those become your focus.
The next thing you know, you will be writing a blog post about how change is inevitable, scary, but doable. You will say things about how the changes in your life have made you a better person and beautiful things have come from it. 😉
So go on, fly. You just may be surprised at where your wings take you. There is so much happiness, love of life, and adventure awaiting you.