I just want to take a moment to tell the world how proud I am of this girl. She turned 21 yesterday and she didn’t have a thing to drink. I know she wanted to…but she was good and I’m so proud of her for thinking of this sweet baby first. She knows there are days for those things in her future and is making good decisions for baby. I’m so proud of you, chica. My hope for you as you enter adulthood is this:
Always focus on making yourself happy first. Until you are happy with yourself and you find true love for who you are, you cannot find true love with anyone else. Along with that goes…
Believe people when they show you who they are. It’s natural for you to always see the good in others first. This is such a beautiful trait to have. It can also be dangerous if you ignore the negatives because you only see the positives. I’ve been there. I tell you this from experience. When they show you otherwise, believe them. Don’t take their faults as dismissal either. No one is perfect and we all have flaws. Just please always be sure that the flaws you see are something you can be happy with as well. If it hurts you and if it isn’t in your happiness plan? Leave it be.
Take it slow. Always remember that you have so much time to find someone who is perfect for you. Not perfect, but perfect for YOU. Be choosy. You can be. You have a beautiful heart and always mean well. Please be sure that you protect that heart at ALL costs. Be sure that the person you give it to is worth the chance of heartbreak. That’s when you know it is right.
Family is everything. It doesn’t have to be those biologically related to you. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be. Never lose focus of those you consider to be family. They are your lifeline. You are theirs. Don’t forget that to keep those relationships strong, it takes work on all sides. Relationships can fall away and be misplaced if you do not take care of them.
Choose Joy. You choose your joy, ALWAYS. In every situation, no matter how “bad” it seems, you choose to be miserable, or you choose to find the joy. Always choose joy. It will keep you afloat when nothing else seems to be right. Always remember the good and beautiful things that you have in your life. Those are your blessings.
Last but never least…
Keep God in the Forefront. He has written out instructions for you in his Word to follow. They are timeless and they are your paths to love and hope. Jesus said that the greatest thing we have is love. It seems so simple, doesn’t it? We know that love is the most beautiful thing we experience in this life. But it is also the GREATEST. If you always put love first, it will change your life. 1Corinthians 16:14 is my favorite scripture of all time. It simply states, “Let all that you do be done in love”. If you do this, I promise you will have a happy and healthy life and you will bless so many along the way.
We love you always, Lee Lee. We pray for you daily. We hold you in our hearts. Sometimes we may tell you things you don’t want to hear, but it is always out of love…always. As you step into this world as an official adult, it may not feel like much has changed. But here you are, about to place a child for adoption in order to give her the life you want for her. You are doing this out of so much love. You don’t have to do it, but she will always know that it was done out of nothing but pure love.
This is probably the biggest adult decision of your life. You are stepping into real life with a bang, girlie. There are going to be tough times. Talk to those who understand. They will be your anchors. God gives us people in this life to help us along the way. Accept that as it is given to you and always appreciate it as they are your blessings.
Love you always.