One of my good friends (Helloooo Amanda!) is adopting a baby girl that is due in May. Yay! I can’t WAIT to see her precious love. We’ve had several conversations about what you REALLY need and what is “nice to have”. She’s going to be a single mom and like any new mama, she is going through the lists of what she needs to prepare for her little nugget. Of course, the more we talk about it, the more I’m thinking…blog post!
So…what do you really NEED to prepare for your new baby?
As most of you know, we “knew” about Logan about two and a half months before he was born. However, we didn’t know if his birth mother was still planning on placing him or not until just one week prior to his birth. We had not purchased much of anything other than the essentials because well, to be quite honest, I didn’t want to have to take it all back should she have decided to parent Logan.
This is what we were certain to have:
- One small package of newborn diapers. We bought the smallest package that we could find. You will probably only need enough for the first week or so. People WILL buy you diapers. We actually left the hospital with a couple of packages of newborn diapers when Logan was two days old. We could have gone out and bought boxes of diapers in eager preparation. However, that would have been wasted money for us. Why? Gifts. We have yet to buy a box of diapers (aside from the itty bitty pack we bought to take to the hospital upon his birth) and he is now over 9 months old. Diapers weren’t something that we really needed to buy. (We were very, very blessed with great friends and family.)
- A handful (or so) sleepers / nightgowns. Babies live in these for a long, long time. Logan stayed in sleepers day and night for the most part until he was at least two months old. They are comfortable, convenient, and so, so snuggly.
- A place to sleep. It doesn’t have to be that fancy crib you’ve always wanted. That can come later. We had a used pack and play with a bassinet on top at first. It was perfect.
- Formula if you are not able to breast feed. We took home several days worth of formula from the hospital and we only bought one container of formula at first. We didn’t know what Logan would be able to tolerate. It’s a good thing that we did this because it turned out that Logan had acid reflux AND was lactose intolerant. We actually went through three types of formula before finding one that he could actually tolerate.
- Bottles. We had six bottles for Logan once he was born and it really was plenty at first. I wouldn’t buy many because some babies are particular. We had to use Dr. Brown’s bottles for Logan when he was an infant because of his issues. They are the absolute BEST for gas / tummy problems.
- Pacifiers. We had two at first and we didn’t buy any more until Logan was older. That was all we needed. He wasn’t old enough to “lose” them yet. We now buy a few each month. 😦
- Wipes. You’ll get some of these from the hospital, but it was our experience that they are HORRIBLE. Bring a pack of your own to the hospital with you.
- Socks. Particularly if you use nightgowns. Personally, we loved the nightgowns at first so we definitely needed socks for our little one.
- Car Seat. Essential. No explanation needed.
- Baby laundry detergent or fragrance/dye free. Your little one will have very sensitive skin. Treat it gently.
- Baby washcloths and cleanser. I literally had one pack of washcloths and one sample bottle of head-to-toe baby wash to start. That’s all you need to begin with–again, these are great baby shower items. I have seven bottles of baby wash still in my bathroom.
- Cotton / snuggle blankets. Just a couple will do. You’ll probably get several receiving / swaddlers from the hospital–no need to buy them at first. (Having extras is nice, but not essential. Put that on your “want” list.)
- Burp cloths. We used cloth diapers for the most part. These are worth their weight in gold. Ask any new mama. You’ll need several of these.
You will receive at least two baby hats from the hospital. These are the only ones we ever needed. We had others, but we rarely used them. Logan hated hats from about day four.
Nice to have:
Other hospital items to consider:
- Comfortable clothing for Mama (and Daddy)
- Pen and Paper for jotting down doctor’s notes
- Phone list of family and friends to notify
- Slippers (hospital floors are cold)
- Shower / bathroom essentials
- Nursing pads
- Gift for your birth mother if you are adopting.
If you adopting, also do not forget your attorney’s number and legal forms needed. You will also need to have someone there to witness the signing of the TPR that is NOT a family member of either side. We didn’t know this and had to call someone in at the last moment.
And another note to adoptive parents: These will be the most stressful few days of your lives and also the most magical. Enjoy every moment and remember, it’s okay to get lost in the emotions. That is what this is all about. 😀