Our doctor suggested starting to teach Logan “self-soothing” techniques at his last doctor’s appointment (2 months). She stated that it was important for him to be able to calm himself and to put himself to sleep. If we tried it and it didn’t work, that we could always try it again later.
We have tried.
And we have failed.
Okay, so I can’t do it. I tried and lasted at BEST five minutes. If truth be told, it was probably more like three minutes. I just can’t bear to hear him cry when I know that all he wants is for me to snuggle him just for a few minutes. On a personal level, it makes me feel like a bad mother. I mean, isn’t that what I am HERE to do? I’m supposed to take care of his needs and steer him in the right direction until he is old enough and knows enough to do those things himself.
I can tell her that I tried. I’ll tell her that I tried and it did nothing but make me feel like a bad mother and upset my child for no reason whatsoever. He’s only four months. If he were a year or two old, it would be different. We’ll try again at that time because for now….I’m rocking him as much as I want. I’m holding him as much as I want.
It’s great in theory. Your child can calm himself when upset and / or fall asleep on his own–it’s convenient and (they say) encourages independence. I wanted it to work, but it just isn’t for “us”. It PAINS me to hear him crying and know that ALL he wants in the entire world is me and I’m choosing to ignore him.
Not to say anything about those who have tried and succeeded. Kudos to you! You are much stronger than I. I will fully admit my defeat.
If he is spoiled, I’ll deal with the consequences. I’ll steer him straight once he is old enough for reasoning. I have waited for this baby for a long, long time. He’s growing up so quickly already.
I’ve decided that I’m going to love on him as much as I feel he needs to be loved.
Because that? That is what Mama’s do.